Failure, fear, judgement - how to navigate your inner critic with grace

𝙒𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙞𝙩 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙘𝙧𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙨𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙫𝙚𝙨, 𝙤𝙛𝙩𝙚𝙣 𝙬𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙠 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙛𝙖𝙧 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙨𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙪𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙖𝙧𝙚.

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Sometimes you look back at a moment or a time when you were feeling terrified (like the shock wave horror kind of moments in your lows but sometimes also after your highs) and/or maybe you even feel overwhelmed by shame or guilt.

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I know my clients have.

I certainly have.

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That fear that I'd really f***ed up big time.

Fear that I looked like a fool.

Fear that my reputation was wiped out overnight.

That I lost that major opportunity/client.

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The cringe worthy pain of that fear. Do you know what I mean?

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𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂'𝗿𝗲 𝗷𝘂𝗱𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗰𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗶𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴, 𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗰𝗸 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗰𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝘀𝗽𝗮𝗰𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗮𝗰𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗮𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘀𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝗶𝗻𝘃𝗼𝗹𝘃𝗲𝗱.

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A few reflections you

✨What has really happened here and is it really true/important? (facts and feelings)

✨How am I feeling in this moment and what do I need to feel supported?

✨Even if this were true, what can I do now to comfort myself?

✨When I'm ready to accept the situation, what can I do that's in my control to move towards the outcomes that I desire?

✨How would I cheer on my best friend and can I do this for myself?

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𝗔𝗰𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗮𝗰𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄𝗹𝗲𝗱𝗴𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝗮 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸 𝗶𝗻 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗴𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗱𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 💜✨

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